HINT #13 - Don't take one ounce of grief from a woman. At the very first hint of bullshit, call her on it. In the figurative sense, slap her on the wrist. Women can sometimes be like little children wanting to be disciplined. By being a nice guy, patient, and understanding, you are like the lenient parent trying to buy a child's respect - it can't be bought. By being soft, you are seen as being weak. From the very beginning, you have to be firm, letting her know that you will not take any bullshit of any kind from her. Don't forget, it's what she really wants.

By "bullshit" or "grief" we mean any kind of negativity that she may direct towards you, be it moodiness, unfounded criticism, breaking a date, general bitchiness - any type of behavior that you would deem undesirable or disrespectful.

As an example of this, we recall the time a friend of ours was at a shopping mall with his girlfriend. He bought a shirt at one store and then later in the day saw the same shirt at another store priced $1 less than he had bought it for. His girlfriend began nagging him to return the first shirt so as to save the $1. She argued that the first store was a rip off, he shouldn't let them get away with overpricing, and he should have shopped around in the first place rather than making an uneducated purchase.

             
Was she really concerned about the $1? No, she was testing him. Testing to see just how far she could push him. His reaction was to try and let it pass. He countered her arguments by saying it was really no big deal, and he would be embarrassed returning the shirt. She continued to tell him to return the shirt, and was soon demanding that he take it back. Finally he gave in and returned the shirt hoping that she would then be satisfied. In fact, she spent the rest of the day nagging him about anything and everything she could think of. It was as if he had been given a license to nag by her first victory. Returning the shirt only showed her that he would weaken if she nagged long enough.
 
What should he have done? At the very first hint of her nagging him to return the shirt, he should have very firmly told her that he had no intention of returning it. That he had gone shopping to enjoy himself and find some nice clothes, not to act like some cheap, tight-wad chasing around to save a dollar. His time was worth more than the dollar and he didn't want to hear another word about it. This was his only viable option.

 

 

 

 

Should a woman know for sure that you are not seeing any other women? No. If she is wondering, then she is a bit insecure and the hint that other women find you attractive will intensify her interest in you. Please note that we do not advocate infidelity. We are merely saying that she will find you more attractive if she suspects that other women find you attractive.

If a woman confronts you with the question: "Are you seeing another woman?" maintain stout denial. She will still be wondering and that is real good.

Once, while looking at a magazine centerfold, we found this interesting comment. It was on the back of the picture - the part that gives the girls biographical information. Under the heading "likes and dislikes" she stated, "I'm not interested in men who let me walk all over them." At first glance, this seemed reasonable and not much was thought of it. Then one of us asked, "Why does she try to walk all over men in the first place?" We began to think about this, and found in our observations a very interesting behavior in women.

We found that women will test men. They will try to walk all over men to see how far they can push them. Why are they doing this? Literally, they are testing the guy's manhood. The more grief a man will tolerate from a woman, the worse he scores on the test. Women are testing because they are looking for a man who will not let them get away with any bullshit. It is a situation where the more understanding and patient you are, the weaker you are seen. The worse you score on the test.

This article is from our best-selling book, "A Man's Guide to Women."